At breakfast the other morning, we were all talking together about:
Things that we believe…that aren’t popular…but we still believe them because God has spoken.
I think that allowing a man to lead his family falls into this category. It’s also referred to as obeying my husband or submission.
Some days I’ll be trying to figure out what God wants me to be doing, so I’ll read a good book, hear a message, or talk to a friend and think “THAT’S what God wants me to do!”
But then I read the Bible.
It says we are to listen to our husbands as to the Lord, because that is the person God has given us to lead and guide our family.
Maybe you think God gave you a bad leader for your family.
I think the reality is that we are loved by a God who gave us free choice. And we are all sinners who will struggle with making choices. He knew that some women would be with unbelievers. He gave those women some special instruction. It sounds familiar: “be nice and quiet and submissive…”
It seems to be a theme for all of us.
I’ll just say right now if there are any women reading this who are Christians, and not married yet: DON’T DATE ANYONE YOU COULD NOT RESPECT ENOUGH TO SUBMIT TO FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!!!
Because how difficult it will be to submit your will to someone you do not respect.
“Wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord…now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”
I remembered something in the Bible that says if we are knowingly living in sin, God will not listen to our prayers.
So then, does not submitting to my husband count as sin?
That feels unfair. But yeah, I think that would be sin. And I mess up. More than I should.
It says in James, “do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves, do what it says”.
In Proverbs, it says “to obey is better than sacrifice”.
Some days, remembering that one line can stop me dead in my tracks.
As women, we can be amazing at sacrifice. Serving in the church, caring for others, usually in such valuable ways…and all the while we can be so sneaky!
Good little church women, disobeying God by ignoring what our husbands have asked of us!
I think we’ve actually convinced ourselves that it is God’s will for us to sacrifice in ways that can ignore our husbands.
Society is constantly telling us that our husbands can take care of themselves.
Maybe we bought into that idea. I mean, think about what we do for our family, church and community in the name of sacrifice.
(Don’t get me wrong, all of those things are critically important when put in the right priority.)
But we must not sacrifice instead of submitting to our husbands. If it comes down to it, the submitting must come first!
The Bible says that if we do not submit to our husbands, it can malign the Word of God.
This is serious! When we fail in this, we are maligning the word of God!
Think about our husbands, who were given the job of leading our families. It is an assignment from God. And THEY will have to give an account to the God of the universe for how they handled their family. Why do we make it so difficult for them to lead us?
In the end, we can sit self-righteously off to the side and point the finger at him and say “it’s all his fault…he wouldn’t lead me!”
It is our shame as women that we make this job of theirs so difficult.
Why are we still like Eve? Why do we think we know better than God and our husbands?
I wish it wasn’t so. It causes so much unnecessary pain and heartache in our marriages.
But! I have good news! God kindly leads us to repentance. We take His Word seriously, and He gives us the Holy Spirit to be our Guide and Counselor. That’s a good thing, because I need a Guide and Counselor every day on this journey of submitting joyfully to my husband.