Welcome back to more ramblings on work.
I have good news for us. Maybe we can knock a few things off our list, because they aren’t about serving our family after all.
What if a lot of the work we are staggering under is self-imposed out of pride?
Pride is sneaky. We have to constantly evaluate whether or not the work we choose to do is really something that will benefit our family.
Or is much of this work just for our self-image?
There is a great difference in the satisfaction of a job well done vs. the ceaseless drive to never let anyone outdo us.
In his writing on meekness and rest, A.W. Tozer calls this pride an “evil desire to shine”.
It seems common to our gender to make simple things more difficult than they need to be. Why we do we do this. Duh.
It could be simple to get dinner, do laundry, and tidy the house for our husbands. But no, we won’t let it be simple. We have to put that special twist on it to make it as complicated as possible. Because our husbands and kids love it when we don’t have time for them, due to being super busy making certain strange things amazing.
Oh wait. Nope. They don’t really like that.
To do a few things well, (the things our family appreciates us doing) does take some thinking and planning.
Planning can be sort of boring. Some of aren’t planners. But it is worth it, because the things that take a ton of our time are most noticeable when they aren’t being done.
We have to plan ahead so that there is food in the pantry, a continuous supply of laundry detergent, and various cleaning supplies.
Unfortunately, those things will do us no good sitting in our homes if we don’t get up and make use of them. That food ain’t gonna cook itself…
If you aren’t sure how to do that, Auntie Leila has written all about it.
We also have to get up on time so that we don’t lose precious productive hours of the day. Getting up before our family may happen slowly, over time.
Somebody has to get up early, stay up late, do more than the others if the family is to be a thing of beauty.
I love that quote, but I have a little disclaimer. Edith means average beauty, as you will see if you read her book. She wouldn’t advocate letting your husband go to bed alone most nights while you stay up making Pinterest crafts. That’s a potential love killer right there.
Edith means that sometimes there are difficult times in family life, and staying up with sick children was one of her main examples. She says don’t make the man who just went to work all day also stay up with sick kids just because you’re tired. It’s our job. And it’s hard, but rewarding work.
There is a sense of accomplishment when we have worked hard, and it makes us happy. We are not out to impress our facebook friends. We answer to someone higher than that about how we care for our family.
A woman who puts aside ‘happiness and fulfillment’ as primary, and begins to think of the needs of husband and children, finds herself amazingly more fulfilled (if there is time to notice) as days go on.
– Edith Schaeffer, What is a Family?
I love the book because she gives very honest and real experiences. One story was about the frustration of the family playing together and having fun while the mother is cleaning up the kitchen, and she threw five plates on the floor. (!) She describes the long process of becoming selfless enough to have more successes than failures.
My family and your family are worth the effort to have more success than failure. The work we do for the love of God has great significance.
Let us not grow weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap the harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9