The Dutch Rush

They're Dutch and Life's a Rush

There are so many great Dads out there, and they are the heroes of their families. We are grateful for them. Michael and I were both very blessed to grow up in homes with wonderful Dads. This has been a life-long gift to us.

Today I wanted to share a few things Michael does for our family that makes him such a wonderful Dad. I bet a lot of you will relate to this list, and recognize many great dads who have shown us these qualities.

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Unbelievably, it’s been a year since we had our “visit the judge day”. Normal families call it Adoption Day. I guess we’re not normal. A year ago, we had told the kids we were going to visit the Judge so that the four little ones would officially be part of our family. “Visit the Judge Day” stuck.

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I remember that day so well.

She said it was the happiest day of her life:

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It is hard to explain the joy and heartache that were all mixed up in that day.

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The year that has followed has been anything but easy. But it has been joyful. And bonding. Bonding in a loving, crazy, loud way that I wouldn’t have imagined.

The older a child is when they are adopted, I worried, the harder it would be to accept a new mom. Especially a flawed mom.

But day by precious day, I have witnessed God’s mercy in our home.

IMG_1253We have that ability to read each other’s faces, she and I. The good, the bad, and the ugly. It’s startling to know that when I look into her eyes, she knows what I’m thinking. Just like a daughter.

Today, after I had finished reading stories to everyone, she walked through the kitchen and said “Mom, thanks for being a mom. You’re a really good Mom”. I looked up at her and saw love and gratitude shining from her face. And while every day I experience the reality that being a good mom isn’t quite the same as being someone’s “real” mom, the love that we share together is still a pretty big deal.

That love makes all the rough moments we’ve had this year seem extremely worthwhile.

We’re pretty happy to be celebrating our first anniversary of “Visit the Judge Day”.

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Is this a happy Mother’s Day for you? I really hope it is. I’ve wanted to write something about today, but couldn’t choose the right thing to say.

I struggle to keep a correct perspective on this day…I want my life to be all about Jesus, not about me. And yet this day creeps up on me. Since I’ve already written a post about that, I’ll let you go read it here.

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Millet’s “Knitting Lesson”

Even longer ago, I wrote this post for Mother’s Day, and it still represents how it seems we should think and act on this day.

If you have a mother, call her, hug her, and love her today! If you are a mother, I hope you have a wonderful day serving and loving your family!

Much has been said about the trauma of an adopted child. There are books, blogs, foster training, and conversations with other adoptive parents. It all becomes a little overwhelming after awhile. It affects how you view a child to be constantly thinking about the ways they can (and do) act out because of their fear and pain.  Continue reading

Thankfully, if I ever forget that I have a blog, Facebook reminds me weekly that I haven’t been posting anything. They regularly let me know that I am basically a blogging failure. Facebook is so helpful.

These days I do most of my writing in my head and then I forget it all before I get to a computer. So, no blog posts.  Continue reading

(Note: I found this post lost in my drafts. It was written quite awhile ago. Too good not to share.)

As you know, we now have several small children in our home. Our children are currently ages 1,3,4,6,10,13 & 16. Since I have never had the pleasure of having children spaced so closely together (the largest gap with these new littles is 18 months), this has provided some interesting situations.  Continue reading