At times it’s tempting to wonder if the efforts we make to serve our families are worth the trouble.
We might be tired of being relied on for comfort, stability and cheerfulness. Sometimes we want to give up on creating an environment of comfort and peace for our people.
Recently I read something that reminded me that all of this is worth the battle.
I am reading Surprised by Joy, by C.S. Lewis. It’s such a thought provoking book. I am loving it. In the first chapter he describes his mother’s death when he was a young boy:
“With my mother’s death all settled happiness, all that was tranquil and reliable disappeared from my life. There was to be much fun, many pleasures, many stabs of Joy; but no more of the old security. It was sea and islands now; the great continent had sunk like Atlantis.”
That heart wrenching paragraph reminds me of how much I am depended on at home.
It matters terribly to the people in our homes that we keep being their secure safe haven.
Have you read this book? It’s worth your four dollars (used) on Amazon. This is my favorite book on the value of creating a home for all people, (large and small), and the great need for us to give ourselves to this work. I love the message of gentleness and encouragement.
It’s not just our children who depend on us for stability and comfort. Reading Edith Schaeffer almost always reminds me to not forget my husband, to make time for him too. Here she explains how she made that time during one season of their life:
“Our ‘evening alone’ started at midnight, or one o’clock, or whenever he got home. I would prepare some very special sandwich and a milk shake, and in the summer we would eat together outdoors…in winter, beside a fire in the fireplace. That meal was our most important, because it was our time to talk about whatever was uppermost in our thoughts. For a growing relationship, we believe such a planned time is important, at some regular moment of the day.”
-Edith Schaeffer, The Tapestry
She went on to say that throughout her life they practiced having food or tea, and a few minutes together at the end of the day. She said “if we have any secret, it is this”. She also mentioned that this time is never “perfect”, but that they made an effort to avoid any arguments during that end to their day!
I love that. It is so fitting in this woman’s life. When I read the description of what her days looked like, I find myself with no excuses! She gently reminds me to do my best to love and serve my family- both children and husband. Her warning that “if we expect perfection or nothing, we will get nothing every time” fits in here perfectly.
Here’s to fighting the good fight in serving our families!